New Beginnings or Endings?
Happy New Year to You!
What exactly does that mean, if you are grieving it can be like nails to a chalkboard. How can you be happy you think when your world is no longer the same without your loved one?
Perhaps you can look upon this moment, this year in a different light it’s a New Year albeit without the one you love. It is an opportunity for you to create or chose what you’d like to experience. It is ripe with new beginnings and infinite possibilities awaiting you to try.
Hard to be Happy
Indeed when you are in mourning it is difficult to feel or even want to be happy. Especially with your mind and thoughts being with the person you have lost. You’re grieving.
Despite where you are, you can find moments here to feel and be happy. Grieving is such heavy energy no wonder we find it hard to pull away from it. However, the body does need to find balance even for a little while. It is helpful to find something different to do or focus on. Even if you don’t want to give it a try. Believe me it can help. This is called daily action
Doing Something Different
With each daily action, your mind is involved in other things and your focus shifts away from your grief. This doesn’t happen overnight. If however you are willing to lay down your grief for a while it can help to ease your pain.
This doesn’t mean leaving your loved one behind. It is the thoughts, feelings, and behaviours that arise in grieving and its these you leave behind if you are willing?
New Beginnings
I love the opportunity new beginning bring. As a child after a period of being naughty, I was given space to think about my behaviour. When ready, I’d leave my room and mum and I would talk about it. After a while, she would suggest I receive a “clean page” where I could begin again being a better person.
I would relish in this thought and savor the possibilities of keeping the page clean! Well until next time.
Did my love of new beginnings, a clean slate begin there, who knows? Today, they are my passions and I love guiding my clients to find their new beginnings. This starts with a shift in mindset and then delving into the work to find themselves. The next stage is about planning and discovering their clean page for themselves.
A New On-line Program
AI have created a program online, that will teach you just that month by month. It is a closed group where you will receive support from the group as well as myself.
Did I keep the page clean – well possibly for a little while, mum was always ready to grant a new one. So you see it is never too late for you to begin your new beginnings and transformation.
If you’re unsure how to – why not email me and let’s have a conversation? anne@understandinggrief.com
