In our society, we readily acknowledge that grief follows after a loved one dies. It is expected and accepted but this isn’t the case when the couple divorce or a long-time relationship fails. They are not given the same compassion as the person whose loved one has died. Grieving after a relationship fails is rarely acknowledged even by family, friends. We know that it’s awful and the person will get over it. Unfortunately, this is not the case as guest expert Diane Valiquette will attest to.
In this episode, you will learn:
There is so much more to grieve than the relationship itself
How divorce/breakup grief is more painful than the death of a loved one
Why grieving a relationship loss can go on for many many years
The mistakes couples can make when dating again so soon after the divorce/breakup
A more realistic timeframe to wait before dating to ensure a happier outcome
The difference in emotional grief experienced by a Dumper or Dumpee
The biggest mistakes couples make in marrying without testing the relationship or having a clear sense of who they are
Why so many marriages fail today
The harm inflicted on children of divorce and what can be done to avoid
Discover if believing in “the one” is fact or myth
The secret to living happily ever after
This episode is available on the Lets Talk About Grief Podcast streaming on Apple or Spotify. Click the link to listen.
Our interview today is with Suzanne Winlove-Smith, a mediation strategist with the Ottawa Courts.
Suzanne is with us today to see if we can uncover much more to what is underneath this escalating issue facing society worldwide with our teen deaths due to drug overdoses. In her work with kids, as she lovingly calls them, she sees the stresses and level of pain that these young people are experiencing. In her words, “there is an epidemic of anxiety out there”
Here is an outline of some of the topics covered in today’s conversation.
When getting married, no one thinks about it ending in divorce
Divorce brings up so much fear in couples
It is the death of their hopes and dreams and these need to be grieved before moving on
When it gets to the courts there is already so much anger causing people to behave badly
Children are often forgotten and will make up their own stories about it all being their fault
Adults forget that their kids hear and feel things that may not be spoken
Adverse childhood event studies have shown 4 or more can lead to addiction
More education and understanding about relationships and divorce
Adults need to take a stand and become Hero’s to their kids by modeling better behaviour
More discussions about these hard to deal with topics – we don’t always have to have the answer but listening can be healing.
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